I think the most powerful thing I have learned from my divorce is that nothing in life is a sure bet. There ins't anything you can assume about life, love or another person. I remember when my husband asked if we could go to therapy but I knew it was too late. I didn't lead him on. I didn't pretend there was something we could do. I also didn't assume I was the victim because I'd asked for therapy for the two years before I finally walked out. Today I got so angry at something posted on LinkedIn from a psychologist I work with, but I have to keep reminding myself that some people don't have insight. And I'm one of the lucky ones. I'm lucky enough to know that people aren't perfect. And some people are very close minded. I also recognize how my emotions are so very strong. They always have been. There isn't anything I can do with that. I can just enjoy the good moments, realize that they won't last forever. Recognize that its not that they can't last forever, its just that they won't. Lean into the discomfort of being mid 30's and single. And know that all in due time, something breathtaking and amazing is going to happen. Whether its me by myself or me with someone else. That's all I can do.
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